Berkay is coming to England!

On Friday, Berkay’s visa application status changed to ‘decision made’ and the passport was sent back in the post. We had absolutely no idea whether it was a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’ and anxiously tracked the UPS parcel on its journey to Fethiye. We had hoped that it would be there on Saturday so that we wouldn’t have to spend the whole weekend not knowing, but it wasn’t to be… so, first thing Monday morning Berkay went and waited outside the UPS office until the delivery truck arrived from Istanbul via Mugla. It was early, around 9.45am their time, 7.45am our time, and my alarm had just gone off to wake me up for another day of work..

As I was walking out the front door, Berkay FaceTime’d me – with the parcel in his hand. He opened the envelope while talking to me and we both had the horrible few seconds of searching through the envelope for either a letter of refusal, or a visa stamp in his passport…

‘They gave it!’ he said – and he was right. There it was – a big, shiny, visa sticker in his passport.

WE DID IT. HE GOT THE VISA!
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My family cried, I cried, even strangers I’ve never met but who read my updates on Facebook cried! It was definitely an emotional Monday morning, and I’m so glad that we found out early so that I didn’t have to sit in work and wait all day! It was also well worth paying the £450 extra for priority service, if we hadn’t we probably wouldn’t know until January.

After all the stress, worry and hard work, it finally paid off. The months of gathering paperwork, years of searching for a job earning over the minimum income requirement, months of gathering wage slips and letters, printing photos, Facebook messages, call logs, proving every inch of our relationship and explaining every little detail of our lives over the past 6 years, it was all worth it eventually.

Lots of people were saying they didn’t realise how hard it was so I hope all my annoying visa updates and stress and worry has opened your eyes to just how hard it actually is to get a visa for the UK – it took so much effort, time, money and a lot of hard work! We have to do all this process again in 2.5 years time too, and meet the requirements at every check point, it’s not a permanent visa! Next time you hear someone say “we let everyone in, they all come here for free and get everything” please tell them you know that’s not true and tell them our story, educate them! It’s cost over £2,500, including an NHS fee, and the visa is very clearly stamped “no public funds” which means Berkay is not entitled to any benefits, despite what a lot of people would have you believe!

I still don’t think it’s quite sunk in yet to be honest, and I don’t think it will until he’s here, and even then it will feel like it’s just a holiday for a while! Everything is going to change, not just for us but also for my family since we we will still be living at home with them for a while. I’ve already been flat searching and house hunting but it’s going to be very difficult to find somewhere until Berkay is here and working as we need two people’s wages to be able to afford to move out around here!

Berkay worked his last night shift in the hotel in Calis last night, and it closed for the winter season today. I think it’s bittersweet, because although we really wanted him to get this visa and for us to be able to live in the UK together, until now, it’s always been an uncertainty, and now it’s a reality! He has worked in that hotel for 12+ years, since he was a student doing work experience with his tourism school, and now it’s definitely the end of an era. This morning he packed up his things and got the bus to Denizli, where he currently is staying in the city with his uncle and cousins. Tomorrow, he goes to the village again and will stay there for 3 weeks before going back to Fethiye, saying another goodbye and boarding a plane from Dalaman to London mid-November.

Once he’s here we’ll be very busy, adapting to life here, working, saving, celebrating his birthday and Christmas and very much looking forward to what 2017 holds for us.  This time last year he was in Diyarbakir doing his army service in a dangerous place and we were having 30 second phone calls once a day. It felt like the day would never come when I’d be able to post this ‘BERKAY IS MOVING TO ENGLAND’ post, but here it is… and that definitely feels good to type!

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18 comments

  1. Alison needham · · Reply

    I am so happy for you and Berkay I hope when I go through my spouse visa application next year we will get the same result
    I love reading your blogs

  2. Carol holmes · · Reply

    Delighted for yous hun xxc

  3. Wow, I’m so happy for you both. Yippee!!! Congratulations. xxx

  4. Fantastic news. All good things come to those who wait. The next exciting chapter in your life is about to begin. I have followed your blog since the beginning and loved every minute of it. Wishing you a long and happy future together. xx

  5. Georgina · · Reply

    Yayyyyyyy!!!! Your love for each other and persistance has paid off – really wonderfull news. Xxx

  6. OMG!!!! So HAPPY for you…I just can imagine how excited you guys are. Where is your doggy going to stay with??? Congrats and all the best!!!!!

  7. Dawn Rayner · · Reply

    So happy for you both, all the best xxx

  8. Fantastic news, congratulations!!!!!

  9. Congratulations!!!!!

  10. Congratulations!

  11. I have really enjoyed following your journeyand will miss them but really so happy for you both, never knew it was so difficult to get a visa wish you both every happiness and hope you can now live the life together you have dreamed of. \Hope to see something of you at the family get togethers lots of love Carol xxx

  12. I am so happy for you. A lovely future together is awaiting. Good luck always.

  13. delighted x x x x x x

  14. So happy for you both i was wondering about your lovely dog is he still going to be looked after by the people who got him now. Its been lovely following your journey i wish you a very bright future. Love Jill

  15. Catherine Kelly · · Reply

    I have been following your journey and can’t believe how emotional I am after reading that Berkay got his visa. I don’t know you personally but I am so glad that you both have the outcome you deserve. Bet you can’t wait to be together again. Hope you continue with your blogs so we know how Berkay settles in the UK.

  16. So happy for you both really enjoyed reading your blog you have worked really hard but its been worth it so glad everything worked out.

  17. Fabulous news we are so pleased for you both,Lil Morgan has asked me to find out what’s happening to your doggy x x x

  18. Amazing. I’m so so happy for your both. I too am a complete stranger to you, but I’ve followed your story for so long, it feels like I know you in a strange way!! I can’t wait to read the next instalments of your life together here. Thank you for sharing your story with us all xxxx massive congratulations 💝

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