For those who don’t follow my Facebook page – I have just come back from 8 days in Turkey! Amongst many other things during the very, very busy week (including our big village wedding party…) a major event happened – we applied for Berkay’s visa!
This has been a very, very long time coming. Ever since I came back to the UK in December 2014 this visa has been the end goal, but it has been the main obstacle in our relationship since day one. The whole time Berkay was in the army I was working hard to find a job earning the minimum income requirement, then once I found that 18 months ago, I began slowly ticking the other things off the list of visa requirements.
Since July I have spent every waking moment after work gathering paperwork as evidence and organising it all – hundreds of pieces of paper, constantly writing letters, perfecting them, making sure everything was explained, printing, reprinting, proof-reading, triple-checking everything, getting paperwork from outside sources to prove everything, collecting wage slips, bank statements and saving enough money to apply. Then, a few weeks ago we finally had everything ready, paid the extortionate total £2500 visa fee and booked our appointment to submit the papers in Antalya on 6th October.
So, while I was there last week (after a couple of late nights on the terrace having a final run through of the paperwork) on Thursday morning we woke up bright and early at 5am and made the 2.5 hour journey to Antalya. Actually finding the visa application centre was a mission in itself – thank goodness we had GPS on Berkay’s phone, although him trying to drive on the massive, extremely busy Antalya city centre roads was rather scary too, nothing like the Fethiye roads we’re used to which are tiny in comparison! There was so much pollution too, the whole city area was all smoggy. We arrived in plenty of time so we stopped for some breakfast – delicious meat borek and a glass of cay.
We eventually did find the visa application centre, which was in a big multi-purpose community centre with a lot of different rooms and security scanners on the doors. It was very modern looking and had a lovely big water fountain outside. Berkay had to register in a small room and I was allowed to sit in there with him while a man rummaged through the paperwork. Seeing him reorder the paperwork that I had painstakingly ordered and labelled according to my contents page was hard to watch, that paperwork has been my treasured possession for months, I felt like snatching it all back! After the intital registration, we had to wait outside another room – there seemed to be at least 5 other people there with the same appointment time as Berkay, and there was no order to people being called into the room, it just seemed to be whoever managed to make eye contact with the man on the door first! He eventually got seen 30 minutes after his appointment, I wasn’t allowed in so I had to sit outside but I could see him through a section of glass in the door and was trying not to make him laugh when he realised I could see him. They took the paperwork, shoved it all in an envelope, took Berkay’s fingerprints and a photo and then that was that.
It was a relief that it was all over – I had gone over the paperwork so many times and was happy with it, I was confident that we had done all we could and shown all we could possibly show, but I always ended up second guessing myself and trying to add more, so having it finally sent off and knowing I could do nothing else was like a huge weight lifted off my shoulders instantly.
The decision usually takes 12 weeks, but we paid £450 to prioritise the application which means a decision should be made within 3 weeks – a huge difference and well worth the extra money. There is an online tracking system that tells us exactly where in the process the application is currently at – it’s so addictive, we keep logging in to check, even at completely random times of day when we know the office is shut, even at weekends. Berkay wakes up during the day and checks it then goes back to sleep, I check several times a day when I wake up, during work, when I come home… The day when it changes to ‘decision made’ I think our hearts will stop beating for a second!! Unfortunately, the decision won’t be known until they send it back in the post and Berkay opens the envelope and searches through the passport for visa or a refusal letter.
Our whole future is in someone else’s hands at the moment… please keep your fingers crossed for us!
I have my fingers and toes crossed for you.
Thinking of you both, fingers crossed for a happy result c
I really have everything crossed for you. I hope it’s a BIG success story very soon.
I have my fingers an toes crossed for you both to be together soon xxx
I feel as if we have traveled this journey with you Dannie and really hope all goes through ok. Tell mum that when Berkay finally gets here we should have a family get together to welcome him to the Byrne Clan.Let us know as soon as you find out lots of love and best wishes to you both.
Wishing you both all the luck in the world
Hope everything goes in your favour danni and berkey all the best for your future together.
I’ll have my fingers crossed for you guys…. But I’m sure it will be a positive outcome. I had to go through visa stuff in Canada with my husband coming from Turkey also. But that was almost 30 years ago and it hardly had any paperwork…. But they did ask us same questions in separate rooms to see if we came up with the same answers…now I heard it’s getting harder. My daughter a couple of years applied for school in the UK and had to have her visa approved and paperwork in New York…
Every thing that can be crossed is crossed Danni x x
Good luck dani and berkey,got everything crossed for a successful visa for you both x
Good luck to you both.
Fingers crossed for you both. Have love reading your journey and hope you have a long and happy life together ❤
You will get the visa for sure. i got a fiancee visa to perform a marriage in UK and i only used a bunch of pictures and whatsapp copies beside his wage slips and a few another curicial papers that sent from England.
I have my visa now but he left me without notice.i thought he was ill or in trouble as i could not communicate with him via email,skype or whatsapp etc.i requested a friend in UK to call him and he has answered the call. I understood that he left me and cut the connection deliberately. My relationship that has lasted one and a half year ended last month. I am now so annoyed and sad. But hey! life goes on.
I do hope you both have long and happy marriage.
Good luck to you both! I live in Kusadasi with my husband and have done since we married 2 years ago, until now we have always wanted to stay in Turkey but have recently spoke of going to the UK, reading your blog I can now understand how stressful it must be
I know what a lot of hard work goes into these visa applications. I have my fingers crossed for you.
You two so deserve your happy ending; wishing you both all the luck in the World!…xxx
I am praying for you good luck xxxxx 🙏🏼💞